By PNG Echo.
You shame me.
Historically, the comments on any article of mine that has opposed the popular opinion of the Facebook ‘elites’ has always elicited some pretty nasty responses.
I have suffered through threats of sexual violence, death threats involving sexual violence and …well…much more – always involving sexual violence.
Apparently, I am old, white wrinkled lapun who needs to be gang raped, for which I should be grateful, before I’m ripped apart and killed (and that’s just a bland summary – the details would take your breath away for their sheer depravity)
The insults always are to do with my age, my looks and the colour of my skin.
I am astounded how people who are, arguably, the most discriminated against become those that think nothing of perpetuating that behaviour in themselves.
Actually, this reverse discrimination is much worse because they really think it’s ok. I cringe, for instance, every time a PNGean talks about “Abos” – and there is nothing I can do or say that will dissuaded them from the practise. They just don’t care.
Anyway, it’s become all in a day’s work for me and that’s sad – this behaviour should never be normalized.
Yet, I plod on – believing the deviates are indeed a deviation from the normal, Papua New Guinean.
But this last episode, following an article analysing the student protests, has ramped up my shame factor exponentially.
I am deeply, deeply ashamed; not of me, but of you.
You profess to be a spiritual, religious and Christian country – yet so many of you say things that would make the devil blush and have violent sexual fantasies that are more depraved than anything I’ve ever heard.
I have just spent a sleepless night erasing hundreds of comments from my Facebook page that no one should be subjected to – and I am talking of my readers, not me.
And people are furious that I delete – quoting their right to a voice – however totlally inappropriate. Others think I delete their comments because they are so clever, that I just can’t stand their brilliance.
Their right to an opinion is balanced by the right of others not to have to listen to it and believe me, if the comments proffered were brilliant, I’d like nothing better than to engage in a meaningful discussion with the writer. No, they are always petty, childishly argumentative and trite with a personal attack and profanity thrown in for good measure. If your comments were erased, it would have been always for one of those reasons – so don’t flatter yourselves.
I am ashamed that because people are my ‘friends’ whether Facebook friends, or in reality – they should be exposed to so much vicious invective.
The comments have been so very vicious and depraved that most of them I couldn’t repeat. But I am gobsmacked that anyone – let alone hundreds of people can come up with that many four-letter words and that many depraved and disgusting concepts and put them in a sentence with Susan Merrell.
My greatest sadness is that many of these commenters are women – and they’re among the most vicious.
When a woman lives in constant fear of sexual violence, why would she wish it visited on another woman – and in such graphic detail.
I have recently opened another Facebook page that will be reserved for actual friends and family – do you know why? To protect them from you and your disgusting comments – and you know who you are.
They need protecting.
I had a running joke that I shared with my cousin who lives in Wales about a naked man at a window – at some stage she privately messaged me asking me what I knew about a certain PNGean who was a Facebook friend of mine.
She said: “I thought I’d just check with you before I tell this deviate just what I think of him because it seems he’s a fairly prominent citizen in PNG – he’s making disgusting suggestions and I don’t know what to do knowing you probably know him. Help me out here.”
Who am I to visit this on my family?
I am at a loss to understand why the writers of these comments aren’t themselves deeply ashamed of what they’ve written. What ideology or doctrine are they following that makes a virtue out of depraved bullying and extreme prejudice?